Love, Sex, and Other Things You Might Find At The Airport

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I was thinking, any book written by a guy with a first name, Zaron and a III after his last name has to be somewhere between good and funny. And both he and the book are. I call it adult advice without adult supervision and it’s a love & sexcess recommended good read.

It’s what we all should have read as teenagers, alongside Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys if we really wanted to understand the intrigue of Nancy’s adolescent blossoming and Frank’s struggles with the true mystery of teenage sex. I know, I know, Nancy didn’t know Frank, and this book wasn’t available back then, but as we read the fictional, adolescent mysteries, it would’ve helped if we’d had some of Zaron Burnett III‘s candid conversation.

We’re not sure what makes Zaron any kind of “expert” on love, sex and airports, but what he has to say is a hell of a lot pithier, more perspicacious and easier to read than high school sex education books, including the hands-on, down-and-dirty stuff. And this is an excellent supplement for the “older” crowd who may have indulged in Portnoy’s Complaint, The Catcher in the Rye and Tropic of Cancer.

Without honesty, lust and desire can trick you and pretend to be love. – Zaron Burnett III

This book should be part of any young-adulthood’s reading pile, and the millions of adults who missed the honesty lessons in sex. It’s an easy, fun read, filled with humor and most importantly, candid insight. Like, fucking honest. Burnett III asks: “Why are we all so sexually uncomfortable – why do we act like adolescents who want sex but are equally afraid of it?” And he answers. He says we can’t entirely blame our parents, it’s much more the culture we grow up in and if we want a healthier perspective on sex we need to change the culture. And readjust our values and what it means to be a woman and a man, and if we do it, it will have a profound effect on happiness in the bedroom. That’s a tall order, cultures don’t change easily. Then, he reveals his “secret plan,” which despite the humorous absurdity, makes a point:

We focus on orgasms and we’ll work our way out from there. We need to talk about what we like. What we don’t like. What we know. Ask questions about what we don’t know. We don’t need to be “grossed out” by any aspect of sex.– Zaron Burnett III

Then he exemplifies his philosophical point with personal perspective and experience:

When I’ve told women I was sleeping with that I’m not afraid of period blood and we could still have sex, and that I’d just change the sheets and we could shower together afterwards, the women looked at me with the same shock they might experience if I said I like to eat dogshit dipped in chocolate sauce. I always thought – What’s the big deal? – Zaron Burnett III

The book is filled with pearls of wisdom served up in large chunks of candor and humor. Like the Chapter titled: An Orgasm-A-Day… For A Better Tomorrow!

If we start by making sure we each have an orgasm-a-day, we subtly tell ourselves we have value. We deserve it. We don’t need to buy anything to make ourselves feel good and worthwhile. We just pleasure ourselves. And then, if we value and pleasure ourselves, maybe over time we can shift our valuing-and-pleasuring to others. And that’ll lead to better sex. And then from better sex, we can enjoy better relationships and communication. And with better communication we can talk more openly and frankly about the world we share. And by doing that we can value our world, and seek pleasure in our world, and make sure others do the same. You see where I’m going with this. One by one, your orgasms will help build a better future. So do it for you… for me… for all of us. Now go get yourself an orgasm!

Culture eats strategy for breakfast

I am not sure if Zaron has studied Darwin, but it’s not a stretch to tie our selfish genes for pleasure and orgasms to our altruistic genes for giving and honesty, and linking them to personal change, which, in turn, can bring cultural change. It might be a small leap of faith for mankind, but if Peter Drucker’s claim that “culture eats strategy for breakfast” has any merit, then maybe oral sex for breakfast is a valid strategy for cultural change – at least for improving personal relationships.