Injecting toxic doses of chemicals into your body before your wedding is the antithesis of what a loving relationship needs injected. What’s needed is a large dose of honesty, openness, acceptance of your natural beauty and a true comfort-in-your-own skin. Unfortunately, botox is a serious impediment to that and a clear harbinger of future relationship problems: Insecurity, superficiality, dishonesty and a constant need for affirmation.
Botox enhances ugliness
If a woman is going to fake what she looks like to make herself feel better, think what else she might fake in marriage, in bed.
Injecting botox is a rejection of self. Your real self. And if you don’t love who you are, as you are, no one can fully love you.
Ironically, botox doesn’t enhance your beauty, it enhances your ugliness, illuminating an inner emptiness that needs filling. Think of it like a fake orgasm, a tricky way of misleading your partner and cheating yourself at the same time.
Lack of honesty is one of the biggest problems in a relationship and pretend pleasure, like pretend beauty, is far too common (54.6% of women fake orgasms. Men 16.4% (see research study: “Truth and nothing but the truth in sex”). Cosmetically altering your body is as dishonest as continually faking orgasms because if a woman is going to fake what she looks like to make herself feel better, think what she might do in marriage, in bed.
Today, on what used to be one of the most important days in a woman’s life, more and more women are injecting fake chemicals into their bodies and fake beauty into their marriage. Unfortunately, they’re not adding beauty, they’re adding an ugly truth. The truth is, they’re not authentic. They have little self-worth, self-respect, self-love … and their sense of beauty is only skin-deep.
“The number of filler procedures among people who are between 30 and 39 years old has grown by nearly 30% since 2010.” – American Society of Plastic Surgeons
Here comes the fake bride
This article from Glamour gives a whole new meaning to, “Here comes the bride.” Here comes the “facially augmented,” cosmetically injected,” “plump lipped,” “eye sculpted,” “cheek elevated” bride. She’s all ready for Instagram photos but completely unprepared for a deep, meaningful, loving relationship.
Apparently – if you can believe this – the plastic surgery business is booming because of Instagram. That’s right, Instagram. The look has been dubbed, “Instagram face.” On their wedding day, women want to make sure they look their “best” for Instagram photos so they are forgoing relaxing facials and massages for high-priced botox and skin-care injectables.
‘Until death – or botox – do us part’
Nothing like Instagram to bring out the superficial meaning of a woman’s solemn oath of marriage. “I do, I do, I do love you … but not myself.” Does this mean the groom should say, “I take you – and all your deep insecurity, fake self-worth and lack of inner beauty as my lawfully wedded wife until death do us part – or until that botox turns you into looking like Mary Tyler Moore.”
How anyone – the women or the plastic surgeons – can rationalize this life-long commitment to fake beauty, knowing the long-term, ugly truth is the antithesis of any independent woman’s self-respect and sense of self (Simone de Beauvoir would never have done this. See book review: The Second Sex).
Forget elevating your outer beauty, elevate your inner beauty. And you won’t find it on Instagram or in facial augmentation. Instead of spending your time on Instagram and getting botox injections, spend it reading books on mindfulness, inner beauty and how to develop deep, meaningful relationships – the kind that last a lifetime, not just until the fake augmentation unravels.
“In the right hands filler enhances the bride’s natural beauty. In the wrong hands the bride ends up frantically trying to dissolve or erase the bad work.”
This alarming increase in “facial augmentation” needs to be more widely discussed. The culture forces of artificial beauty and sexuality and the contagion of social media needs to be called out for what it is, fake, fake, fake. Of course, it’s a free world and if a woman truly feels she requires plastic surgery by all means consider it, but do it in careful consultation with the very best professionals – both OB/GYNs and plastic surgeons. There are good ones out there, like Dr. Marc DuPéré at the Toronto Visage Clinic but you have to find them. Don’t settle for the ones talking out of both sides of their botoxed mouths at the same time.
It’s your body and deserves nothing less.
From Glamour. Read more >>