The truth and a few facts will set you free …

from an overdose of penis size anxiety.

Two-thirds, 68%, of men are concerned about the size of their penis even though 90% of all men have what is defined as an “average size.” WTF? Get over it. And stop thinking about changing it. And yet, in one study “half the men believed they could change their penis size through non-surgical means.” They can’t. And most men seeking surgery to increase their penis size actually fall within the normal penis size range. Fuck, give me a break, not an enhancement.

There’s lots of research with lots of data and the obvious takeaway is always that size is not important, especially in a loving relationship, and there are many things more important than size. Plus, there are many ways to offset a smaller penis, if required. Read more, learn more and love more – particularly love “your penis” more – whether you’re the male owner or the female renter.

A few naked numbers:

• The average erect penis is 5.2 inches.
• 90% of men fall in the range of 4.0-6.3 inches.
• The average depth of a vagina is 3.77 inches and expands when aroused.
• Only 31% of women orgasm from penis penetration.
• Women preferred a penis of slightly larger circumference and length for one-time versus long-term relationships. These first estimates of erect penis size preferences suggest women accurately recall size and prefer penises only slightly larger than average.
• While indicators of penis size include ethnicity and finger length and ratio, most proposed cues of penis size, including male height and foot size, weight, shoe size and age, are unreliable.
• No diet, pill, or exercise regime affects the size or shape of genitals. And yet, about half of men in one study believed that they could change their penis size through non-surgical means.
• Little can be done to change the appearance of the penis. Contrary to some public opinion, discomfort with the appearance of the penis is not impacted, or is positively impacted, by viewing sex films.
• Given that only intimate partner(s) view the penis, the appearance is relatively immutable, and sex films are not causing dissatisfaction.
• Partner perceptions of the penis appearance seem to most likely to impact men’s feelings about the features of their penis.
• Men who are less satisfied with their penis report more sexual health problems. A smaller penis decreases sexual confidence, which may be why penis size is related to sexual function – in it’s in his head, the wrong head.
• Women recognize that infection risks are higher from a one-night partner. While women adjust their behaviors for this risk with one-night partners, being less likely to engage in anal sex and more likely to use condoms, it’s often the risky behavior itself that creates the pleasurable, not the actual coitus.
• Vaginal intercourse always causes tears in the vaginal mucosa, especially in the sensitive posterior fourchette, so women might prefer for regular, long-term mates a smaller penis that’s less likely to stress their physiology.
• Women might shift their preferences for penis size depending on the type and duration of sexual relationship.
• Women’s penis preferences may vary with their relationship expectations. Women prefer more masculine partners for shorter-term sexual relationships.
• Women also value intelligence more, and attractiveness less, for long term, as compared to short term, partners. More masculine traits, such as lower voice pitch and (to some extent) larger penis size are correlated with testosterone levels, which also may influence men’s mating goals and attractiveness.
• Since a larger penis size is perceived as more masculine, we predict women will prefer a larger penis for shorter-term sexual relationships.
• Women likely make penis size judgments partly using their recalled experiences. Yet, it is unclear how accurately women can recall penis size. Exposed to nude male images, women do attend to the genital area and can generally recall if a penis was described as “large”, “medium”, or “small”, or not described at all.

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