Is sex without an orgasm …

good sex or failed sex?

(4 min article)

“Arching in bliss … higher and higher … and then … nothing.”

It’s not the “nothing” that is wrong, it’s the expectation that’s wrong. Expecting an orgasm and thinking an orgasm is “imperative” is a seriously twisted idea we have in our culture and our heads.

The catchy meme “orgasm imperative” (coined by health scientists) is like a flashing light in our psyche – “I must, I must … come now, come now” – and it needs to be shut off, unplugged, disconnected. Because it is dangerous to our sex life. And counterproductive. The more we “must,” the less we “do.”

“Many people view sex without orgasm as dysfunctional.” [it’s not] – Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Overcoming this “orgasm imperative” can be done. It’s not easy but it can be, and should be, done.

This article, “Under the Covers: The orgasm imperative isn’t so imperative” from University of Pittsburgh student daily newspaper, could get you started on better understanding this dysfunctional, misdirected, fucked up idea. If your interest is piqued, we have more articles, a book review and a podcast on the flaws in the orgasm as sex’s ‘Holy grail.’

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