Without masturbation – solo sex –
we cannot love a partner fully!
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“It’s sex with someone you love.” – Woody Allen
Woody Allen understands the wonderful benefits of masturbation but tens-of-millions of people don’t – especially women.
Masturbation, which used to reside in the dark basement of our cultural myths, has come out of the darkness into a degree of enlightenment but make no mistake, it still lives in the shadows of what we think is sex. It shouldn’t. And no one sheds a brighter and more glorious light on it than the late Betty Dodson. And her website continues her mission: “Better orgasms, better world.”
This book not only rips the stigma off masturbation, it opens windows onto the sunshine of solo sex. A must-read.
Here are a few enlightening, perspicacious, orgasmic snippets:
“Masturbation is the ongoing love affair that each of us has with ourselves throughout our lifetime.”
“Honest-to-goodness sharing was the essence of intimacy. We felt more at ease, and sex was a lot more fun. Becoming responsible for our own orgasms was a basic statement about individuality and equality. It established us as people who had a choice when it came to lovemaking. We were moving away from romantic sex toward the infinite delights of erotic loving.”
“I recommend having a hot love affair with yourself. Sexual healing begins by learning how to turn yourself on, discovering your sexual fantasies, and giving yourself an abundance of self-love and orgasms.”
“Sex energy and creative energy are parts of the same life force that draws us to it like the warmth of a summer sun or the light of a full moon.”
Love your clitoris!
“Masters and Johnson had just published their findings on female sexuality, which demolished Freud’s idea of “mature vaginal orgasms.” They found all orgasms centered in the clitoris, and that categorizing orgasms as clitoral or vaginal was incorrect.”
“A healthy PC muscle was definitely an orgasm enhancer.”
“Every time I think I understand everything there is to know about sex and orgasm, some new experience or research comes along that destroys a favorite theory or two, and once again I’m humbled in the ever-changing face of human sexuality.”
“Masturbating together demystified the romantic image of orgasm.”
“We both knew that masturbation had saved our sexual sanity, and we vowed that we’d never again consider it a “second-rate” sexual activity.”
“Masturbating is the best way in the world to learn to control the urge to come quickly for both men and women. By loving those little quick comes, your orgasms will grow longer and stronger.”
“Sexual healing begins by learning how to turn yourself on, discovering your sexual fantasies, and giving yourself an abundance of self-love and orgasms.”
“Explore your genitals with just as much interest as you have always examined your face.”
And this last one is a crucial insight for so many women. Because there is no G-spot, just an erogenous area – and not in all women.
“Don’t concern yourself with finding a “G Spot.”
Read the book if you want to earn a Master’s Degree in Sex for One. Everyone should master this exquisite part of our sex lives.
Read NY Times article on the marvelous Betty Dodson >>
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