Talking dirty –  if you think it, fantasize it, say it!

Give voice to your erotic potential. Dirty talk is not dirty, it happens best at the height of open, honest, loving intimacy. In loving sex, saying what we truly think, feel, fantasize, want and need is the ultimate expression of our erotic…

‘Senior sex’ – we all get there and …

if we're willing to learn, it can be as "good as it gets!" Okay, okay ... the Sex in the City girls aren't there yet, but they're getting there – and probably as curious and concerned as any women. Sex is a lifelong journey – should…

💘 Cupid’s arrow doesn’t always hit the mark …

and knowing why is a wonderful, loving Valentine's Day gift ❣️ (3 min) Cupid's Poisoned Arrow is a tell-you-all-you-need-to-know book that will change what you think about cupid and Valentine's and orgasms. Yes, orgasms! And most important,…
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Why Happy People Cheat

A good marriage is no guarantee against infidelity (17 min read) From The Atlantic: This essay is written by Esther Perel and adapted from her book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. See Book Review and buy at Love & Sexcess…

Brush up on the “Dos-and-Don’ts” of sex toys

and know the 10 household items NOT to use during sex! Here's a must-read article if you're into improvising with sex toys and sometimes grab something handy around the house. Cucumber? Jalapeños? ... Don't! The title of the article…

Great sex should never be a surprise …

at anytime, anywhere, any age. Never! The reality is ... too many women are having unsatisfying sex – about 54 million, everyday. Worldwide there are 120 million acts of sexual intercourse everyday and approximately 45% of those are unsatisfactory…
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Stop chasing the orgasm …

try sex mediation [one woman's story].   Irina Gonzalez, freelance writer for Glamour, wrote an intriguing story of her search for a better sex life through meditation. In her article (4 min read), she tells her story of sexual frustration,…

Mother Nature loves sex and …

she can fix low libido, naturally! Sex is good for our health and when we live more naturally we live better. This means we should satisfy our sexual needs and desires the same way we treat hunger and thirst – as a necessity! We know there…

40% of women do not create enough natural lubrication!

It's one of 8 reasons you're not orgasming. First figure out why you're not creating enough natural lubrication. It can be anything from too much stress to too little foreplay. Or medication. Or the wrong lubricant. We've posted an article,…
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TEDx TALK: “Sex is becoming an endangered species

and we've turned our back on it. TEDx Talk (11 min) Wow! This is a must-watch sex talk. It's takes less time to watch than the average time it takes a woman to reach orgasm (12 min). And this could lead you to orgasmic heights you've never…

Can a real-life threesome become a TV series?

You bet! By first being a hot, sexy, bestselling short story! No matter where you are on your sexual journey, there's nothing like a delicious, hot, short story. And we have a good one. We posted an excerpt, which is a taste of what you can…

Clitoral touching: Ya’ don’t know what ya’ don’t know!

And loving yourself is about knowing what you need and how you want it! Sex is like flying a plane ... sort of. If ya' don't know how to fly the plane, ya' ain't gonna 'get off' the ground. Whether you're the sex pilot or co-pilot, your…

Sex in a chair. So many options!

Here are 19 of the "best chairs" to have sex in, ranked.   Sex in a chair on SNL might be a bit much for some of us but sex in a chair without being an exhibitionist can be great! Here's an article from Cosmo ranking the best chairs.…
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What? No touch orgasms?

Yep! Couple of Tantra breaths and you're off! No touch, hands-off-your-vulva orgasms can be a wonderful part of Tantra sex and Tantra teacher Christina says it's about "rocking your pelvis forward and awaking your sexual energy." Watch her…
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His orgasms are like this …

and mine flatline most of the time! Enough! This article depicts the essence of the orgasm-sex gap by relating a scene in the HBO movie, “The Undoing” with Nicole Kidman. The writer asks, "Why do we have to watch sex scenes like this?" "Women…
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Tantric sex can be a gateway to great sex [podcast]

This podcast from "The Quick & The Dirty," with three sexually with-it women, provides wonderful insights into Tantric sex. And the 3,000-year-old philosophy and practices of Tantra could unlock a whole new world in your world of sex. "Our…
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Tantric sex 101 …

a quickie in tantric sex   Tantra in Sanskrit means "woven together" and the ultimate in sex is the union of two into one. "Tantra teaches slow, non-orgasmic sexual intercourse." Here's a short article (2 min) from Best Health, Tell…
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Ladies, need stress relief? Forget the gym, yoga, pilates, head for the bedroom

Release tension with these five relaxing, natural, stress-relieving sex positions Stress is natural, so is sex, and they are often antithetical to each other. Too much stress, too little sex, especially good sex. And yet, done right, sex can…
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Our sex problems are not in the bedroom …

they are in our head, awaiting the quiet power of sexual and loving mindfulness. Mindfulness is ... quieting and steadying the mind; becoming aware of bodily sensations; and learning how we hang on, how to let go, and how to channel meditative…
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Erotic massage: Calm the mind, arouse the body

The gift of touch not only releases the "love hormone," it signals trust and affection, strengthening the bond between partners. And knowing how to master an erotic massage is a wonderful way to emotionally and physical connect. An erotic…

Fake orgasms are in decline but …

'we've got a long way to go baby.' (4 min) "58% of women report faking orgasms but the vast majority, 67% (of the 58%), no longer do." Just do the math. 4-in-10 women are still faking and undermining the relationship and the sexual fulfillment…
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The “Upward-Facing Dog” can be …

a great position in your 'fucking-workout' routine. (6 min) Yogic sexuality is the wonderful combination of yoga and sex ... "hot yoga." Sexual yoga is like traditional yoga and dates back thousands of years and focuses on combining breath,…

After-50, ‘circular sex’ can be endless bliss

with no goal, no end point, no orgasm, no 'failure.' There is no such thing as a 'perfect circle' but circular sex is designed to move you toward sexual perfection. Orgasms are not the end game of sex, especially with after-50 sex. Here's…

How wired are women for great sex?

The easy answer: It's complicated. (A must-read article – 25 minutes of incredibly worthwhile insight into female orgasms) The title of this excellent article from Walrus magazine (great magazine) by @sarahbarmak is, Building a Better…
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Naked yoga in your own home. Beautiful!

"It just feels so honest." "Taking my clothes off on Instagram has been one of the best things I’ve done." @laurenrudick Here's a quick story of a woman who says, "Recent struggles and setbacks left me in a major funk" and naked yoga was…

Let us introduce you to a real cowgirl.

one who has given a lot of thought to your sexual pleasure and well-being, not just TV binge-watching. We've met a real cowgirl with a real story to tell. And she's from Colorado, not a fictional Yellowstone Ranch in Montana. We'd like to…

Doing Kegel exercises during sex can

harnesses your pelvic superpower and vagina magic. Kegels during sex can be some of the best sexercise you ever do – for you and your penis-owning partner. And the orgasms – his and yours – can be orgasmic! A strong pelvic floor can…

The best sex of your life may still be to come!

45% of women have better sex as they age. Like a good wine, sex can get better with age and sex after 50 is to be savored as you explore all its delicious tastes and flavors. According to a survey conducted by sex toy company LELO, 45 percent…

It takes more than his mouth

to enjoy a gourmet meal & he needs to know the new pussy-eating paradigm. There is so much to know and so little effort put into learning the marvelous mysteries and endless ways to a woman's deepest cunnilingus pleasures. Most women don't…