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July 13, 2022: Post-Roe v. Wade, do we really know WTF ‘getting pregnant’ means? 😱 In many ways, it has fucked up our fucking life (a.k.a. sex life). Here’s a short quiz 🤔 in the New York Times that tests your knowledge and understanding of “reproductive health” – the “other” part of fucking that we don’t pay enough attention to. 👉🏼 Not improving your knowledge of sex is like not wearing a life jacket when you’re going for a ride in an exciting speedboat and don’t know how the fuck to swim.🙏🏽 Take the test (14 questions) >>
July 07/22: Men pay attention❗️ Anal sex is more than “dick-in-hole-penetration.” Researchers at Indiana University found the keys to what women want in good anal sex: 🙌🏼 40% preferred “Anal Surfing.” 👌🏽 35% preferred “Anal Shallowing.” 🙏🏽 40% preferred “Anal Pairing.” Read more >>
June 23/22: 🙌🏾 There is an intelligence in vaginas and vulvas and they send out distress signals in the form of pain, dryness, a lack of sensation, sudden allergies and recurrent infections when the person they belong to is with a partner who isn’t healthy for them. 👏🏼 The vagina just might have the ability to forecast partner compatibility. Listen to your vulva❣️ Read more >>
May 25, 2022: Scientists believe that humans have as many as 53 senses, not just the original ‘Five Senses” as defined by Aristotle. Thermoception (heat), Nociception (pain), Proprioception (body awareness) and chemical senses (thirst) are just a few that we should ‘sexplore’ in our sex lives Read two articles (the first on sex and the 5 senses, which has link to second on 53 senses) >>
May 18, 2022: Study found link between yoga and sex in women, particularly those over 45. After a 12-week yoga program, 75% showed improvement in levels of desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, sexual satisfaction, plus a reduction of sexual pain.” Read two yoga-sex posts >>
May 11, 2022: The average penis in “girl inches” is 7 inches. It’s wrong.❌ Off by more than an inch. The average size is between 5.6 and 6 inches. The misperception of “girl inches” for penis size is widespread among those who don’t have penises and can be problematic for both women and men.😨 Sexual pleasure depends on better understanding, especially since only 1/3 of women orgasm from penetration. And vagina size can also have a lot to do with sexual pleasure👌🏽 Read more >>
April 29/22: This week, in keeping with turning common taboos into wonderful new ‘sexplorations,’ we’ve posted an article on the wonders of mutual masturbation. Plus, a few numbers that might encourage more mutual use of sex toys. 😍 39% of women prefer to use sex toys alone rather than with a partner. 🥰 Women have tried using sex toys more often during solo sex (53%) compared to men (37%). 😘 72% of women with some sex toy experience regularly use sex toys during solo sex. Deep intimacy comes from ‘doing it’ together. More at Bedbible >>
April 13/22: Potency of our sexual imagination 🥰: “Orgasms can be generated by the imagination in the absence physical stimulation.” [read that again]. A research study: Activation of sensory cortex by imagined genital stimulation found that, “Imagined self-stimulation of the clitoris and nipple resulted in greater activation of the frontal pole and orbital frontal cortex compared to tactile self-stimulation of these two bodily regions.” Plus, “Imagining dildo stimulation generated extensive brain activation in the genital sensory cortex.” Imagine that❣️ We’ve posted an article if you’re interested in “full-body ‘brain crotch’ orgasms.” 🙌🏼
Apr. 05/22: This 9-minute video will help you learn how to give the most incredible hand job, ever. 😍 Learn how to give a Lingam massage (Lingam is Sanskrit for penis, the ‘wand of light’). Tantra coach, Leán Bakker offers an exquisite and erotic demonstration of how to truly honor the penis. It’s 9 minutes that just might change your sexual relationship with the penis, forever❣️ Must-watch (she also has 9 other videos).
Mar. 31/22: Netflix’s GREAT new docuseries, The Principles of Pleasure is must-watch TV. If you want to “up” your sexual pleasure [maybe some people don’t 🤪] then this 3-episode, binge-worthy docuseries is … well, maybe the best conversation starting, bedtime viewing option that you’ve engaged in for quite some time. This series could dramatically change the real-life statistic that 46% of women would rather get a good-night’s sleep than have sex. 🙏🏽 Watch trailer (1:22)
Mar. 30/22: Jada Pinkett Smith admits to having a threesome. That doesn’t have to be a problem but a “one penis policy” in threesomes can be a problem for women. 20% of Americans have been in, or are interested in trying, some form of non-monogamy and the numbers are rising. Dating app, Feeld (aka: “Tinder for threesomes”) has seen a 400% increase in searches among women, 500% among men. Almost 25% of Americans are more interested in having a threesome than before the pandemic. Read more on “one penis policy” >>
Mar. 21/22: There are more than 20 penis sizes and shapes and no such thing as a bad shape or size — just bad information on how to use it. It’s the ‘how-to’ that matters. Learn how-to work with different shapes and sizes in this article (7 min). Better still, learn how-to honor and erotically love the penis through Lingam massage (Lingam is Sanskirt for penis, ‘wand of light’). Watch tantra sex video (9 min): “How to handle the penis.”
Mar. 15/22: Are you scaring him away? Top reasons he loses interest: 1) You’re too needy. 2) You’re using him to fill a hole in your life. 3) You’re an emotional tornado. 4) You’re an insecure woman. BTW, the ideal praise-to-criticism ratio in a relationship is 5 to 1 (five positive comments for every negative one). For people who end up divorced the ratio is 0.77 to 1 (three positive comments for every four negative ones). Read book review (2 min), watch video (9 min) >>
Mar. 11/22: 43% of millennials say their ideal relationship would be non-monogamous [read that again]. 30% of Gen X said the same. 20% of respondents in the study engaged in consensually non-monogamous relationship. As Bob Dylan once said, “The Times They Are A-Changin’.” How to Explore Ethical Non-monogamy? Read more at Psyche (19 min) >>
Mar. 7/22: A woman takes on average 13.46 minutes to reach orgasm. In the study, times ranged from 12.76 minutes to 14.06 minutes and 20% of the women reported never reaching orgasm. Read article in Red (2 min) >>
Mar 4/22: 60% of betrayed men find out their partner is having an affair. [Be careful ladies]. 40% of betrayed women find out [Guess men are better at hiding affairs]. Learn more: Read book review of, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, by Esther Perel.
Mar 2/22: Almost all Americans who took the survey for the book Tell Me What You Want (97%), reported having sexual fantasies—and most reported having them frequently. The vast majority said they fantasize somewhere between several times per week and several times per day. See book review >>
Mar 1/22: Two key findings from a four decade study of 30,000 Americans shows: 1) “For people in relationships, sexual frequency is no longer significantly associated with well-being at a frequency greater than once a week.” 2) “Sex may be more strongly associated with happiness than is money.” Read article at EVERYTHINGZOOMER.COM (1 min) >>
Feb 28/22: Did you know that audio sex stories arouse all of your senses in a way that pornographic videos can’t. >>