Entries by Lori Hughes

Twelve Rude Revelations About Sex

Excerpt from Alain de Botton’s book. Written for Psychology Today, last reviewed June 2016 (10 minute read) In order to transcend the discomfort that sex typically stirs, you may need to radically rethink desire, marriage, fidelity, and much more. Sex, we have been led to believe, is as natural as breathing. But in fact, contends […]


What It’s Really Like to Have a Threesome

[A chat with three women – twenty-six, twenty-two and forty] When it comes to threesomes, there’s a lot of planning involved to make it happen. If you were to go by TV or movie standards, it’s rarely the wordless kissing of a tangle of strangers and then waking up the next morning leaving as if […]

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Lady Chatterley’s Lover

Classic. Erotic. Timeless. This is Downton Abbey without the legacy money, phony peerage and domineering dowager, but still with the inbred arrogance. It’s much closer to the real story of British hypocrisy in class status, uninhabited marriage, hollow romance, desperate love and raw human need. This book was part of the kick-down-the-door, 20th century vanguard […]

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Why Can’t a Woman be More Like a Man?

Original article by Toby Young, published May 24, 2018 in Quillette Abstract and link to published Oxford Academic research follows the article. A comment: Size matters In the age of “big data,” this resarch is big because it goes to the hearts and minds of the conversations about everything from feminism and the decline males […]


The Abortion Issue Isn’t About ‘The Patriarchy’

In 1971, Gloria Steinem said, “If men could get pregnant, abortion would be a sacrament.” Steinem’s positioned the issue of abortion as a gendered power struggle, according to which the act is seen as controversial only because it’s something women do. Insofar as it’s possible to imagine a world in which men were the ones […]


Why Don’t Women Comeback Like Tiger Woods?

Women literally cannot afford to make the messy mistakes we see in the long arc of a lot of a storied male athletes’ careers, and they rarely get the payoffs. Excellent article on how there’s a double standard for women in so many facets of our society. This one highlights sports and the different level […]


Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?

Despite the easing of taboos and the rise of hookup apps, Americans are in the midst of a sex recession. “I’m a Baby Boomer, and apparently in my day we were having a lot more sex than they are today!” – Helen Fisher, American anthropologist. Both young people and adults are having less sex than […]

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Inside the Wild World of “Pony Play” Sex

How pretending to be a horse helped me explore my own humanity. “I stripped down to a bra and panties, and Cowboy fitted me in a leather body harness with an attached tail and a head piece with a mane.” Empowerment has been my guiding principle as I’ve explored BDSM. Especially when I’m being submissive, […]


17 Sex Toys for Men

There are so many sex toys and so little knowledge – or willingness to explore – but these 17 selected by Esquire certainly cover a good range, and as they say, “The one thing men often forget is that pleasure can come (pun intended) in a lot of different ways.” From prostate massager and cock […]


Can birth ever be completely natural?

This is the question that researchers want to address in their inter-disciplinary Research Topic ‘Birth.’ “Discussing issues around birth is crucial because of the dramatic scientific advances that are taking place …” – Dr. Kath Woodward. In many societies, childbirth is highly medicalized, with practitioners and midwives intervening to manage the safe delivery and health […]


Murphy Brown spotlights an uncomfortable truth …

Women experience the world differently, and men don’t get it. The #MeToo movement is not about a bunch of powerful men being named and shamed. It’s about a systemic issue – an acknowledgment that sexism, discrimination, harassment and abuse are everyday, omnipresent factors in their lives. [Perhaps the show was cancelled because of our ingrained […]


How many half-wit Congressmen are still living in the stone age?

Must-read rating:♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ Must-read ratings (1♥ – 5♥) are based on our opinion of the book’s contribution to understanding, enjoyment and entertainment in all things related to love, sex & success Too many. And we need many more women to drag these myopic, knuckle-draggers into modernity – reality. Denying climate change is bad […]