Podcasts, videos, books are giving women everywhere an opportunity to learn about something that matters a great deal to happiness and fulfillment in their lives. Previously, we wrote a book review about The Vagina Bible by Dr. Jen Gunter and we want to follow up, and keep up, with the ongoing conversation that is happening […]
love, desire, sex and the need to be something to somebody (2 min read) Unfulfilled desire could not be more needed, more real. More riveting. This is non-fiction storytelling at its best, revealing the pain, pleasure and hypocrisies of love, marriage, infatuation and lust in heterosexual partnerships, everywhere. Well, at least in these three women’s […]
the fact that monogamy has nothing to do with love. (Overview: 3 minute read / The Atlantic article: 17 minutes / TED talk: 21 minutes – all worth your time) “It is our imagination that is responsible for love, not the other person.” – Marcel Proust A must-read for “anyone who has ever loved.” That’s […]
Everybody wants to be happy, few know how. This book can change that. (3 min read) Tell me and I’ll probably forget. Show me and I might remember. Let me do it, and I’ll never forget. – Chinese proverb This book will “tell you” all about happiness and through extensive research studies and stories […]
A good marriage is no guarantee against infidelity (17 min read) From The Atlantic: This essay is written by Esther Perel and adapted from her book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. See Book Review and buy at Love & Sexcess Bookstore. Esther Perel is also the author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence […]
try sex mediation [one woman’s story]. Irina Gonzalez, freelance writer for Glamour, wrote an intriguing story of her search for a better sex life through meditation. In her article (4 min read), she tells her story of sexual frustration, daily stress and a declining sex life with her husband. “I don’t know a woman […]
This podcast from “The Quick & The Dirty,” with three sexually with-it women, provides wonderful insights into Tantric sex. And the 3,000-year-old philosophy and practices of Tantra could unlock a whole new world in your world of sex. “Our sexual power is a wasted resource.” – Heidi Leoppky The Quick & The Dirty with Hilary […]
This woman knows how. And tells us how in a great starter book “Watch their feet, not their mouth.” The old axiom above is for measuring the value of a person’s actions over their words – and it’s a good guide – but Shamyra Howard’s short, pithy book, Use Your Mouth, puts a whole new […]
“Pick-Me Girls” and “Himpathy Girls.” (see podcast interview at end of review) Girls this is on us! If anyone is going to fix misogyny, it has to be us. And it starts with realizing that seeking male validation is dumb and demeaning. And the toxic TikTok trend of “Pick-Me Girls” is exhibit #1 because it […]
From The Health Gap, “The Mystery of the Pelvic Floor:” Millions of women have problems with their pelvic floor and yet, most problems are minor. But who knows for sure? Kegel exercises for girls and young women are sometimes good, other times useless. What to do? Start by reading this article. Almost a quarter of […]
her once-in-a-lifetime, summer of sex and self-discovery “The love you feel is for yourself, Roxana. It is freedom speaking its joy to you.” Forget Nancy Drew, Harlequin Dare and porn, every teenage girl should read Open Me – as well as every thirty-something woman who left too many things unsaid and undone back then. It’s […]
A helluva lot more than they actually think they are! #MeToo is a movement, and a good one. It’s making headway and we’ve “come a long way baby,” but still have a long way to go. And women aren’t alone in needing a movement, so do men. Ladies, don’t gloat over their needs, instead jump […]
because she has been “shaped by civilization,” not reality. In the modern vernacular, doctors know fuck all about the female clitoris. And today, in western civilization, medical practitioners continue female genital mutilation out of ignorance and malpractice. Mainly because they simply do not know the anatomy of the clitoris. What? you ask. We repeat, they […]
and what he thinks of his manhood 100 men open up their hearts, minds, souls and bathrobes in these short, perspicacious stories that every woman should read, should want to read – want to know. What women do not know about men could fill a book – a whole fuckin’ library – and yet, too […]
The answer for most of us is a resounding – inexcusable – no! Few of us have an honest answer to this question. Of course, most of us have answers about sex, but we’re usually wrong. Miserably wrong. As in flunking. We get an “F” because even though we’re able to fuck, we are not […]
sex with multiple partners is the fantasy of choice If you are not fantasizing, you are in the minority – and with such lack of interest in sex you probably haven’t even read this far. For all the rest of you, welcome to the crowd. Fantasy is good. And when not ‘in your own head,’ […]
there are wonderful websites dedicated to the state of affairs From UK survey by IllicitEncounters: IllicitEncounters, in the UK claims to have had over 1,000,000 users since 2004. That’s a lot of extra-marital affairs! Ashley Madison, another online resource, states, “Life is short. Have an affair.” Like any booming business, these sites have a great […]
need to come out of the dark in a fragile relationship. You can’t fake dishonesty forever. If you asked 100 people what an orgasm feels like you would get 100 different answers. Because the orgasm is one of the most mysterious and least understood aspects of sex and yet, one of the most sought-after goals. […]
a big reclamation project that needs every women – and a few good men – to change what has been defiled far too long. The title of this book grabs your attention but it is the content that will grab your inner spirit and lift the real woman in you into the light of reality, […]
A study of Women’s Preference for Penis Size reveals a big surprise – most women know it, most men don’t. Everyone should! Essay by Elizabeth Joyce (9 min read – a small investment in illiteracy) “Sigmund Freud was sexually illiterate. He did women a tremendous disservice. He was brilliant but taught some nonsense.” – Dr. […]
like you think or when you think or why. “Big” has its time and place but most of the time, with most of women, it isn’t that important. A great guy and an average penis is a fuck of a lot more important than a great penis (size) and an average guy – unless it’s […]
living life to the fullest and being true to ourselves Someone once said, “Life is all practice until your forty.” Perspicacious. And mostly true. Especially in our sex lives. Some of us learn from practice and trial and error, others don’t, and for those who need more insight this book is a treasure trove. OB/GNY, […]
and unnecessarily dangerous for you and your clitoris. We all know what men think when a woman opens the hood of a car to check what’s wrong with the engine. “WTF does she know about an engine?” And often their right. But a woman is smart enough to call someone who does know, like a […]
“I’m shocked that we’re still not admitting to young people that a lot of the reasons we have sex is because it feels really, really good.” – Andrea Barrica, CEO, O.school. Why do we lie to teens about sex? Not just fibs. But downright, dangerous, life-damaging lies. We’ve created a world of lies around sex […]
Men constantly fail at sex and yet women continually give them a pass. Why? Here’s a 2 minute video course with real people telling us in why. Basically because so many of us – women and men – don’t know what the fuck we’re doing when it comes to sex, let alone love-making. A funny […]
and even before, it wasn’t worth a good fuck. WTF? Somebody do something. Women? Men? Both? The amount we ignore the necessity of a woman’s pleasure is unacceptable! Sex is about a lot more than just fucking and anything less than women having orgasms at least 90% of the time is a direct reflection of […]
at the intersection of sex and science. Nobody has more fun talking about sex than Mary Roach. And writing about it, as she does in her blockbuster book, Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science. Watch her 31 million viewed TED TALK first, and if you want more, read the book. Roach is on […]
“I’d become terribly afraid—’dick shy,’ the boys my age would say.” In pre-Google 1996 … we all bought into the mythical value of virginity [which] had the unintended effect of encouraging creative experimentation. Oral sex was okay. Getting fingered. Basically anything besides s-e-x. By 16 years old, I would become one of those girls who […]
from an overdose of penis size anxiety. Two-thirds, 68%, of men are concerned about the size of their penis even though 90% of all men have what is defined as an “average size.” WTF? Get over it. And stop thinking about changing it. And yet, in one study “half the men believed they could change […]
causes the most amount of trouble” – John Barrymore. No woman needs a clock to confirm Barrymore’s claim that most of the time, the time invested in sex is too short … quick, fast, down and over. And too many times, it’s one of the reasons women don’t want to spend more time having sex. […]
