Hot, hotter, hottest … less, less pain

Heat can diminish sexual pain and improve pleasure – a lot! Here are six ways you can heat up your sexual experiences – with heat. Some you know, some are unique. They all can make sex so much more pleasurable. Add a little CBD lubricant…

Listen to your vulva she knows …

if he's not right for you. "She slept with multiple new partners, none of whom elicited the same painful reaction Nick did." It can be true. A woman's vulva, vagina, clit and other pleasure-parts can sense that something is off, often before…
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Reverse cowgirl can be “dangerous!”

for the health of your penis. Caveat owners – and renters. (3 min) "50% of penile fractures happen in the reverse cowgirl position." – Dr. Karan Raj. The reverse cowgirl can be dangerous to the health of your penis – whether you're…

Polyamorous sex and jealousy don’t work

together they are toxic, self-inflicted stress. As the old adage says, 'If you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen.' And the same for a polyamorous sexual relationship. If you can't stand the reality get out of the relationship. To…

No … yes … yes … no! Consent and the …

liberated woman doesn't mean your sexually liberated. Good interview. Great book. A must-read! "Modern heterosexual dating culture appears to be an emotional meat grinder whose miseries and degradations can’t be solved by ever more elaborate…

Five true, dirty, smokin’-hot sex tales …

Writers share their most memorable sex of the year! "Some are funny, some are delicate, some are raunchy, some are sweet and some are silly, but they are all, on some level, very serious." – Kayla Kibbe @kay_kibbe is one of our fave sex…
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Can a relationship survive no sex?

It's negotiable! If two First Ladies and two Presidents can negotiate a loving, no-sex relationship then there has to be hope for all the other long-term relationships facing the "doom" of no sex. "Right up there with food and water, sex is…

Clitoris: Worshipping the pearl with cunnilingus …

How to give divine cunnilingus to the pearl of sexual pleasure. Like an oyster becomes a pearl so too can cunnilingus become a divine act of pleasure. You need only know how! And if he doesn't, you can guide your loving angel, your god of love,…
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Office lust – and love – are inevitable!

We just have to learn how to "manage" them. Office-mates often become bed-mates. 1/3 of employees started relationships with colleagues during the pandemic ... who says Zoom doesn't connect us? Proximity – physical, emotional, intellectual…

No, opposites don’t attract and …

every dating app knows it. Get used to it! It's just not true that we want to meet someone "different." The evidence is clear: "Opposites repel." Deeply ingrained in our psyche and genetic make up is a need to be with someone we trust and…

Do you care if he’s divorced? Shouldn’t!

A divorced man can come with significant benefits! It might seem counterintuitive but a divorced man might be a great catch. Of course there are caveats but a woman should not dismiss dating a divorced man simply because he's divorced. “Life-changing…

Over 50? How many sex partners have you had?

Study reports how many sex partners people over 50 have had ... surprise! Answering this question really requires an open, secure and strong relationship. And hopefully if you're over 50 this is the case. "Body count, like the concept of virginity,…

Grab your headsets because listening to sex

gets you off  gloriously and gives voice to your deepest desires! It's true! Listening to sex stories can give voice to your innermost fantasies. It gives a whole new meaning to 'talking dirty.' It's audio porn or audio eroticism and can…

Sex in public can be a big turn on but …

is the possibility of getting caught worth the risk? Many women say, "You bet it is! But if you want to explore sex in public places there are a few things you should do to prepare – make a sex check list. Here's an article from O School…
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So tell me about the last time …

you had sex. "You get to write the script ... how you want sex to occur in action ... and how you want to express it." If ever there was a case where the 'book is better than the movie (there's no movie, yet),' this is it. The bonus is, your…

Talking dirty –  if you think it, fantasize it, say it!

Give voice to your erotic potential. Dirty talk is not dirty, it happens best at the height of open, honest, loving intimacy. In loving sex, saying what we truly think, feel, fantasize, want and need is the ultimate expression of our erotic…
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Why Happy People Cheat

A good marriage is no guarantee against infidelity (17 min read) From The Atlantic: This essay is written by Esther Perel and adapted from her book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. See Book Review and buy at Love & Sexcess…
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TEDx TALK: “Sex is becoming an endangered species

and we've turned our back on it. TEDx Talk (11 min) Wow! This is a must-watch sex talk. It's takes less time to watch than the average time it takes a woman to reach orgasm (12 min). And this could lead you to orgasmic heights you've never…
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His orgasms are like this …

and mine flatline most of the time! Enough! This article depicts the essence of the orgasm-sex gap by relating a scene in the HBO movie, “The Undoing” with Nicole Kidman. The writer asks, "Why do we have to watch sex scenes like this?" "Women…
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Ladies, need stress relief? Forget the gym, yoga, pilates, head for the bedroom

Release tension with these five relaxing, natural, stress-relieving sex positions Stress is natural, so is sex, and they are often antithetical to each other. Too much stress, too little sex, especially good sex. And yet, done right, sex can…
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Our sex problems are not in the bedroom …

they are in our head, awaiting the quiet power of sexual and loving mindfulness. Mindfulness is ... quieting and steadying the mind; becoming aware of bodily sensations; and learning how we hang on, how to let go, and how to channel meditative…

Let us introduce you to a real cowgirl.

one who has given a lot of thought to your sexual pleasure and well-being, not just TV binge-watching. We've met a real cowgirl with a real story to tell. And she's from Colorado, not a fictional Yellowstone Ranch in Montana. We'd like to…

Aging is no longer a dirty word!

Beauty, sex and sapiosexuality can be a woman's domain no matter her age! “I love my neck wrinkles! I think they’re awesome!” – Paulina Porizkova At age 56, Paulina Porizkova is standing up, speaking out, expressing and exploring what…
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Great sex at 20 can be bad sex at 40!

Unless you know and talk a lot about sex. That's a good point! In fact, there are many points that are so important to know if you want to have a fulfilling sex life throughout your life. If you know and understand yourself and sex, you…
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“I have never had an orgasm.” – Sherry

"I am afraid to have an orgasm." – Denise. “For me there’s a lot of shame wrapped up in this topic.” “I’m excited and I’m also terrified.” “I’ve spent my whole life running the other way. And I’m ready to stop doing…

Is it the death of the one-night stand?

 Maybe? And many of us "would want this" and welcome it. Post-pandemic fucking is going to be a whole fucking lot different and there's a lot of good news – mostly, for most of us. Of course, what we don't know is when this fucking pandemic…
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Want sex? Get vaccinated!

80% of vaccinated singles want their partners to be vaccinated. In difficult times (pandemics) some people suck it up, toughen up, grow and mature, others don't. American singles have! Yesterday we posted about a national study by @match…

What do singles really want? Don’t laugh!

 83% want emotional maturity. "Emotional maturity is the new sexy." Looking for emotional maturity might be a laughing matter for Jennifer Aniston but it's not for the majority of singles (let's face it, after two tries she's single again…
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Beginner’s night at a sex club – you in?

Roman is probably in, are you? If anyone would go to a luxury sex club it would be Roman Roy from the HBO blockbuster, Succession. Of course, the show is fiction and so is Roman but ... the number of people going to luxury sex clubs is increasing…
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Pussy owners need to know and talk more sex …

and know WTF we're talking about! As long as we leave the decisions about our sexual pleasure and well-being to our pussy, we will never have a lifetime of sexual fulfillment. Never! Our exquisite, wonderful, mysterious pussy needs us in…