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Reverse cowgirl can be “dangerous!”

for the health of your penis. Caveat owners – and renters. (3 min) "50% of penile fractures happen in the reverse cowgirl position." – Dr. Karan Raj. The reverse cowgirl can be dangerous to the health of your penis – whether you're…
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His penis will love a Lingam massage

If you don't know what it is, learn. If you haven't given one, learn how! Earlier this week we created a post about giving great hand jobs and it prompted one of our followers to suggest a Lingam massage. Of course ... so here it is. Lingam…
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Can a relationship survive no sex?

It's negotiable! If two First Ladies and two Presidents can negotiate a loving, no-sex relationship then there has to be hope for all the other long-term relationships facing the "doom" of no sex. "Right up there with food and water, sex is…
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Why do couples stop having sex?

It's not what you think – and it's quite often"okay." Sometimes you simply don’t want to want sex. And that’s ok! Sexual desire is complicated and there are many reasons our sexual desire declines. And "ageing doesn't erase sexual desire…
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Men fake orgasms too  – and surprise …

that can be a good thing! 28% of young, virile men have faked an orgasm We all know how much women fake orgasms (about 2/3) – too much – but we know very little about men faking. But they do. More than we realize. Whaaaat? Yep!  And…
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Vagina beware: Spin class can create spin crotch

and that can make more than your legs sore! If you're lovin' spin class but not the post-ride tingling in your pudendal nerve you need to know what's going on down there. "This overactivity in your pelvic floor can lead to symptoms that some…
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Are chairs great sex toys?

Can be if you know how ... and are careful. 78% of Americans over 18 own at least one sex toy as of 2022, increased from 65% in 2017. Better still, everybody owns some furniture and chairs can be great sex toys. If a room has a chair, it's…
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Want a full-body ‘brain crotch’ orgasm?

Learn how to touch your genital sensory, 'brain crotch' with your mind. "Sex neurons that fire together, wire together." – Dr. Nan Wise. We all have sex on the brain but few of us know how to have a full-body orgasm by focusing on our 'brain…
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Office lust – and love – are inevitable!

We just have to learn how to "manage" them. Office-mates often become bed-mates. 1/3 of employees started relationships with colleagues during the pandemic ... who says Zoom doesn't connect us? Proximity – physical, emotional, intellectual…
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“One-penis policy” is a problem in threesomes

Most couples are looking for another woman, not another man. The "one penis policy" in a sexual relationship is rooted in misogyny and homophobia. Because men feel threatened. Very sad. But very real. Perhaps there was some deep-seated insecurity…
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Admit it: “I don’t know how to give a great hand job …’

And you're not alone, most women don't. We're talking great, not average. But not to worry. A little bit of knowledge, a little bit of communications (before, during and after) and a little bit of practice ... and Voilà! You'll be a hands-down…
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Does pineapple make cum taste better?

Better question: Does it matter? "Honey, they don't call it a job for nothing."– Samantha, Sex and the City Regardless of where you stand (or sit or kneel) on the merits of blowjobs and whether to swallow or spit, there's a question about…
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Run Wonder Women … run! The sex is better!

Running improves sexual performance – more frequency, arousal, orgasms. If you want to be "Wonder Woman" in the bedroom you might want to trade the negligee and slippers for track shorts and Nikes. An experienced physician, marathon runner…
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Cunnilingus ‘on the side’ … deliciously orgasmic!

The "Kivin Cunnilingus Method" might be the tastiest orgasm ever. Remember in the movie Harry Met Sally (see clip below) when the older woman in the restaurant who's watching Sally fake an orgasm said, "I'll have what she's having." Well, there's…
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What? No touch orgasms?

Yep! Couple of Tantra breaths and you're off! No touch, hands-off-your-vulva orgasms can be a wonderful part of Tantra sex and Tantra teacher Christina says it's about "rocking your pelvis forward and awaking your sexual energy." Watch her…
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Tantric sex 101 …

a quickie in tantric sex   Tantra in Sanskrit means "woven together" and the ultimate in sex is the union of two into one. "Tantra teaches slow, non-orgasmic sexual intercourse." Here's a short article (2 min) from Best Health, Tell…
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Our sex problems are not in the bedroom …

they are in our head, awaiting the quiet power of sexual and loving mindfulness. Mindfulness is ... quieting and steadying the mind; becoming aware of bodily sensations; and learning how we hang on, how to let go, and how to channel meditative…
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The “Upward-Facing Dog” can be …

a great position in your 'fucking-workout' routine. (6 min) Yogic sexuality is the wonderful combination of yoga and sex ... "hot yoga." Sexual yoga is like traditional yoga and dates back thousands of years and focuses on combining breath,…
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Naked yoga in your own home. Beautiful!

"It just feels so honest." "Taking my clothes off on Instagram has been one of the best things I’ve done." @laurenrudick Here's a quick story of a woman who says, "Recent struggles and setbacks left me in a major funk" and naked yoga was…
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“There’s still life in the old broad.”

If any woman knows anything about "life in the old broad," it's Jane Fonda! Jane is 83 and going strong – and getting better. Here's a 2 minute video that should be an inspiration to any woman from teenager to octogenarian. “It’s great…
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Great sex at 20 can be bad sex at 40!

Unless you know and talk a lot about sex. That's a good point! In fact, there are many points that are so important to know if you want to have a fulfilling sex life throughout your life. If you know and understand yourself and sex, you…
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“I have never had an orgasm.” – Sherry

"I am afraid to have an orgasm." – Denise. “For me there’s a lot of shame wrapped up in this topic.” “I’m excited and I’m also terrified.” “I’ve spent my whole life running the other way. And I’m ready to stop doing…
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“Quickies” – 21 short stories in 5 minutes or less

Pick any of these 21 sexy, sizzling mini-stories for when you want a quickie – a short, hot, sexy, down and dirty escape. Plus we've added a few book reviews of great erotic stories. And if you would like something a little longer (30-40 min),…
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Give your clitoris the gift of knowledge.

Hallelujah to the man (and woman) who gets a Master’s Degree in "Clitorology." Who wouldn't want a master's degree in love-making? Any man (or woman) who does not is not a true lover, and never will be. It starts with Clitoris 101. "Understand…

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