“All good research—whether for science or for a book—is a form of obsession.”
Research – deeper, better, more carnal knowledge
Most of us want a better understanding of a wide range of things sexual, and a deeper understanding of a few. At Love & Sexcess, our objective is to give you a “first-take” or overview on any number of subjects related to love, sex and success, and then you decide where you want to do a deep dive.
We uncover interesting research that just might fuel your curiosity and start a bigger conversation.
We’re always digging so check back often.
Women’s Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models
Women’s preferences for penis size may affect men’s comfort with their own bodies and may have implications for sexual health. Studies of women’s penis size preferences typically have relied on their abstract ratings or selecting amongst 2D, flaccid images. This study used haptic stimuli to allow assessment of women’s size recall accuracy for the first time, as well as examine their preferences for erect penis sizes in different relationship contexts.
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Why Can’t a Woman Be More Like a Man?
Great article and research from Quillette: “Whether it’s the new genetics or cutting-edge neuroscience, the egalitarian left is on a collision course with science.”
The largest single-sample study of sex differences in the human brain will provide significant discussion between those who believe gender differences are a social construct and those who believe they’re genetically ordained.
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TED Talk talks penis, structure, size and more
Yes, size matters but most women aren’t as concerned about their man’s penis size as they are his suit size (36 short vs. 44 tall). Or both?
A study, published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences and covered in Scientific American, found that women consider penis size and a man’s height equally when judging attractiveness. Plus, Dr. Diane Kelly, a comparative biologist, describes the penis skeleton – yes it has a skeleton – and its amazing attributes, regardless of size.
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Four factors make a company great for women
Having women in leadership doesn’t guarantee women at all levels will be supported.
The Wharton Social Impact Initiative provides specific findings from hundreds of academic studies on women and work that reveals what makes certain companies better for women to work for than others. The report identifies four of the critical outcomes that matter most for women.
Plus there’s a excellent white paper on this issue, entitled, How to Drive Gender Parity in Your Workplace. You can access and download both here – they’re invaluable and free.
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Truth and nothing but the truth in sex – no fucking way!
Less than half of all men and women are honest about their sexual fantasies and over half of women fake orgasms. There are many more revealing truths in this survey from Superdrug Online, which rips the covers off of couples innate dishonesty in the bedroom. One finding: people claim they’re honest about sexual satisfaction but, in fact, are not and yet, “crave sexual honesty as far as sexual performance goes.” This survey is rich in honest, fascinating surprises.
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The Importance of Male Ejaculation for Female Sexual Satisfaction and Function
A few wild and wacky numbers on what women think of male ejaculation: “22.6% of women stated that they experienced a more intense orgasm when their partner ejaculated during vaginal intercourse.” And what about this one? “13.1% of women regarded the quantity of expelled ejaculate as an expression of their own sexual attractiveness.” OMG!
The benefit of this information is that it can start a conversation between sex partners as to what might be important to them.
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The fear in sex: It’s rampant and frightening
From the “Top Ten Fears” and “Sex Fears About Body Insecurities” to fears about “Satisfaction,” “Consequences” and “Consent,” most of us are a bundle of fear and shame, which is a powerful force sabotaging most sexual relationships. Women worry almost as much about the size of their breasts as men do about their penises. Geez, get over it. Knowledge is king and if you want to be king and queen of your sex life, bone up on some of these facts, and then stop being such wusses and weenies.
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Sex and ‘Mean Girls’ Politics
‘Girlfriend,’ while you’re fighting patriarchy, watch out for your girlfriends.
From Taki’s Magazine, a thought-provoking essay by Christopher DeGroot, linked to research into why women harm their female rivals’ opportunities by transmitting reputation-relevant social information.
Research on Women’s In-Group Relations: “It’s important for women to not follow feminists in equating expressed male sexual interest itself with moral evil.”
We’ve also provided the abstract and link to the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Full report is available ($35.95).
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Considering the Male Disposability Hypothesis
“Male disposability” describes the tendency to be less concerned about the safety and well-being of men than of women.
Is our society shifting to one that cares more about the well-being of women than men? Or has it always been so? Will the growing feminism movement increase the disposability of men?
Excellent article and research reference from Quillette.
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Sexual frequency is a telltale for the health of a relationship
And it’s different in a marriage than cohabitation – a lot different
The title of this study, Sexual Frequency and the Stability of Marital and Cohabiting Unions, leads one to say, “Obviously, sex frequency matters to the health of relationship.” But what’s important is that it’s quite different when cohabiting. Basically, the pressure to ‘keep it up’ in cohabitation is significantly greater than in marriage. Read our short summary and the abstract or if you’re concerned and want to understand the nuanced differences, we’ve provided a link to download (free) a .pdf file of the 17 page report with all the details.
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